I’ve had several conversations recently with people who have an identity crisis happening.
Change is tough for most, and it’s even harder when we don’t accept the change.
I’ve seen it happen numerous times over the years. People start to get in better shape, they’re losing weight, they’re thinking in a more positive manner, they’re making healthier choices…all the signs of success.
BUT, when they look in the mirror, they still see the person they were. The person in the mirror is still fat. The person in the mirror is still negative. The person in the mirror is still who they used to be, and getting rid of that image is more difficult than ever imagined.
Have you ever had success with something, and feel like you don’t deserve it. It could be love, money, health, career…you finally get what you thought you wanted, only to still feel like it doesn’t belong to you.
The problem lies between those ears of yours. Do you know who talks to you more than anyone else every day? YOU!
Ask yourself this, if you heard yourself saying the things you tell yourself out loud to someone else, would you be appalled? Would you stand by and allow those things to be said? Would you feel compelled to speak up and intervene? If so, it’s time to retrain your thoughts and redefine who you are.
We all face trials and tribulations in life, but it’s up to us to determine whether they define the person we are, or simply allow them to be things we experienced. When we set out to make positive change, we must understand it will change us, and that’s a wonderful thing. Furthermore, we must EMBRACE that change, and adjust the internal narrative accordingly.
For years I didn’t pick up a book. I had told myself over and over I wasn’t a reader, I didn’t like reading, it was boring, and every other bullshit excuse to not read. One day I wised up and realized I was never going to grow without reading. Ask me now, and I’ll happily identify as a reader, and it all started by changing my mindset.
When you constantly tell yourself losing weight is hard, it will be. If you don’t see yourself as fit, you will always hold yourself back. If you don’t believe you are worthy of love, you will always have relationship woes.
As an adult, who you are is determined by what you continually tell yourself. That doesn’t mean you can magically become rich just by saying you’re a billionaire, or an alligator by saying it’s so. What it means is your internal dialogue controls your actions more often than not, and you begin to identify with those stories. If you tell yourself you’re a fit person, you begin to exhibit behaviors fit people embody. Those behaviors then reinforce your new thought pattern, and the change you sought is now a reality.
What are you telling yourself every day? Is your personal narrative in alignment with what you say you want out of life? Are you willing to embrace the person you have become?
Be honest with yourself, take some time to answer these questions, and adjust accordingly.
As always, if there is anything I can help you with in regards to your fitness, nutrition, & mindset, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
I’m Marc Z, and I’m Making America Fit Again!
I hear people all the time talk about wanting to lose weight, get in shape, have a better mindset, etc, yet I see them do nothing about it. Or worse yet, a halfway committed effort is put forth, but since that only yields halfway results at the most, discouragement sets in and old habits come right back.
Imma keep saying it, for things to change, things have to change!
In our instant gratification society, people often want results as fast as possible. If someone needs to lose 50lbs, we all know it will not realistically happen in two weeks. However, what is possible is quick victories to foster a positive mindset, which in turn leads to a higher level of commitment to achieving a specific goal.
So how can you get some quick wins under your belt? You have to be all in.
We’ll use health and fitness as an example. The stats say 80% of people who start a new exercise program stop within 6 weeks. Why? Because they’re not seeing results, they’re sore, they’re hungry, they think they have to eat tilapia and steamed broccoli all the time, and the list goes on. Now the REAL reason people stop so soon is because they’re not getting the desired result. If you were getting better, you’d keep going even if you were sore and tired and hungry.
The solution lies in your commitment. You have to be FULLY dedicated to the goal you want to achieve. You can’t say you desperately want to lose weight, then drink alcohol Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. That’s not being committed, that’s half assing it. You gotta use your whole ass if you want the results!
Now, being fully committed to a health and fitness goal doesn’t mean giving up everything forever, but I believe going all in on a few key habits, for a concentrated amount of time, can give you the aforementioned quick victories and propel you to keep pushing towards your goals.
I recently started the 75 Hard Challenge (look it up if you’re not familiar with it), and to summarize, it’s about doing a few simple habits, consistently and without compromise. every single day over a 75 day span. I realize that’s a lot for some people to wrap their head around, but I KNOW it will change me for the better both physically and mentally. If we’re keeping perspective here, 75 days is not THAT long of a time frame (I can rationalize damn near anything:-)).
Now, if you need that quick win. If you’re looking for some momentum in your health and fitness journey, here’s what I would recommend. Take a 30 day span, and GO ALL IN! Commit to implementing healthy habits every single day, without exception, for 30 days. If you do, I promise you will keep going on day 31!
What would those habits entail? This is not an exhaustive list, but a good start for most:
Those 4 things alone would do wonders for most people, regardless if you’ve been working on your health and fitness for years, or just getting started.
To reiterate, this doesn’t have to be an all or nothing endeavor all the time, but consider giving a full fledged effort for a short amount of time, build some internal encouragement and momentum, and take control over your mind and body.
In addition to coaching people to better fitness and nutrition, Marc enjoys writing and helping expand people's minds to live their best life.
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