I see it happen often. Someone will walk in the gym, and someone who hasn’t seen them in a while will say something like “WOW, you look great!” Then the receiver of the compliment will say “Huh? No, I still have a long way to go” or “Me? But my (insert negative body image issue here) is still too big.”
I know many of you are nodding your head right now because you do it all the time. Not just at the gym, either. When you’re out with friends. When you see family. When some random person compliments you on your hair.
Let me give you some perspective…or at least MY perspective…on why your reactions are flawed and what the appropriate response should entail.
We live in a VERY self centered society. People are constantly looking down at their phones. People avoid eye contact at all costs. So many individuals shy away from unnecessary human interaction. We post more “selfies” than “themies” (I just made that word up, so now it’s a thing!).
Because of all that, I believe when someone gives a compliment, it’s genuine. Sure you get the occasional flirt, but more often than not it’s someone simply seeing some good and commenting on it. And since they’ve taken a moment to not only recognize, but speak up as well, I believe compliments are more sincere than ever.
With that being said, the appropriate response is simply this: THANK YOU!
(You don’t have to yell it, but you can if you want or if you’re in a noisy environment)
When someone compliments you, just thank them. Don’t deflect. Don’t shy away from it. Don’t feel obligated to compliment them back. Just say thanks!
Here’s the real issue when deflecting compliments. In a backwards sort of way, you’re basically telling that person they don’t have good judgement and they don’t know what they’re talking about. Try saying THAT to someone the next time they compliment you, and see how it turns out.
In a world full of spiteful people and nasty comments online, it should be refreshing to have someone take the time to offer up a compliment. Don’t negate the joy they are spreading due to your own insecurities. We all know we’re our own worst critic, but maybe if we listened a little more to the kind words being spoken to us, we wouldn’t be so hard on ourselves.
So the next time someone compliments you, respond with a heartfelt THANK YOU, and go about your day with a smile on your face!
I didn’t want to spill the beans too soon, but this finally got approved and I have been cleared to share. I have teamed up with the League of Masticators Against Obesity to bring you this revolutionary new diet. RESULTS GUARANTEED!!* I would love to help you navigate this highly effective program, so let me know when you’d like to get started!!
Let’s get this party rollin’!
Day 1-You will drink water only, 200oz of it. Has to be water attained from a garden hose, but filtered through a coffee filter. The vitamins and minerals in the garden hose tap water will help to flush out the toxins in your body better than regular water, and the coffee filter will insure you don’t have any chunks. Easy peasy.
Day 2-Start your day with 8oz of bacon (nitrite and nitrate free, of course), and a dark chocolate bar, at least 70% cacao. Much like the popular bulletproof coffee, the fat in the bacon should help keep you full until the afternoon, and the antioxidants in the chocolate will finish the cleansing process the garden hose water started. In the late afternoon, you will begin to eat an entire rotisserie chicken, bones and all. This should be done slowly and consumed over a 5 hour period, making sure you chew each bite EXACTLY 40 times, no more, no less, because science and stuff. Finish the day with 24oz of room temperature water attained from a bathroom sink faucet only.
Day 3-You should be feeling spry and fresh by this point. Within 3 minutes of waking, consume 3 large grapefruits, rind and all (don’t want those nutrients going to waste!!). Wash it down with 12oz of 2% chocolate milk. The milk should be in the cartons like we used to drink in the school cafeteria. Lunch will be one ounce of salmon, and 1 loaf of gluten free/dairy free/sugar free/paleo & keto friendly/vegetarian bread product. Before consuming the loaf, spread salted butter across the top, and sprinkle cayenne to get that metabolism fired up. Dinner will consist of an entire bag of Caesar salad, and one Twix bar. Make sure you only eat one, because science again.
Day 4-Juice time!! In a blender, combine the following for your high powered, detoxifying, nutrient filled, tasteplosion:
If this does not fit in your blender, sterilize your bathtub and use an emulsifier to blend.
Drink this throughout the day. Makes enough to keep you sustained and full of energy!!
Day 5-Follow closely, as this is where it all comes together. You will need to sleep until 10:37am central standard time. Due to the potency of the nutrients you will have consumed over the past 4 days, combined with circadian rhythms and more science, this sleep is crucial to seeing the desired benefits. Then, upon waking, take a cold shower for 12 minutes, while simultaneously eating the other Twix you didn’t eat on Day 3. The rest of the day you will consume copious amounts of social media, while incessantly posting about this diet and urging all your friends to join in the fun. For dinner you will dine upon spicy tofu burgers, 3 kale leaves, and Chickfila lemonade.
There you have it folks, your 5 day plan to lose weight and body fat, and transform yourself faster than you can say Make America Fit Again!! Happy Dieting:-)
OR, you know, you could invest in yourself the right way, educate yourself on how to eat nutritiously without depriving yourself of the things you love, and quit looking for a short term fix for a long term problem. I know it sounds crazy, but oddly enough, it works really well. And if you’d like help doing that, I’d love to serve you.
In case you didn’t figure out, this is satire. PLEASE don’t friggin’ attempt this. Doing so is at your own risk (although if you do, please have video documentation because that would be awesome:-) )
What I’m going to tell you today is not groundbreaking news.
It’s not a new concept.
It’s not my idea.
However, when implemented properly it will absolutely change your life.
What I want to implore you to start doing, it you’re not already, is express gratitude.
Like all the other things good for you, it’s easy to say, but often much more difficult to implement on a regular basis. Please allow me to give you some parameters and action steps to make gratitude a daily occurrence.
Step one in this process is to get a physical journal, notebook, etc to record your daily gratitude. I recommend doing this first thing in the morning or making it the last thing you do before going to sleep (or both if you’re feeling spicy!).
Next, write down 5 things you are grateful for. Don’t hold back here. You can be as selfish or unselfish as you want. If your iPhone brings you joy, write it down. If you’re thankful for the health of your family, write that down, too. This exercise becomes a great reminder of all the big and little blessings you have every day.
Expressing gratitude can be a very personal thing. However, I do believe it is something that should be shared with someone close to you. A spouse or significant other, your bestie, a parent...someone you know and trust, who will listen and share the experience with you. Oftentimes over dinner, my girlfriend and I ask each other “What are 3 good things that happened today?” It’s a great way for us to not only connect, but to remind ourselves of the good from the day, even if we feel the day didn’t go as planned. We all have problems, but sharing your gratitude can serve as a reminder things aren’t that bad.
Gratitude should also be expressed outwardly. I highly recommend seeking opportunities each day to express your gratitude towards others. You’d be amazed at how much of a difference you can make by simply engaging with others who cross your path.
If you’re purchasing something from a store, put your phone away and give a compliment to the cashier. Send a text to a friend and tell them how much you appreciate them. Mail...yes, like physically mail...a thank you note to someone deserving.
Not to sound super hokey, but living a life of gratitude can absolutely change your outlook on life, and help you experience life at a level greater than most.
In addition to coaching people to better fitness and nutrition, Marc enjoys writing and helping expand people's minds to live their best life.
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